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What do Fingerprints, Snowflakes, and the Human Brain have in common?

May 24, 2022Disabilities

Here’s a quick challenge for you: What do fingerprints, snowflakes and the human brain have in common?

If you said that each is unique and different, you’d be correct!

No two sets of fingerprints are the same. Each person’s designs (even identical twins) fall into three main categories (with several subcategories) and have variations in them that help us distinguish one person from another. Even though some people’s fingerprints may look similar, there are ways of telling them apart on close inspection.

No two snowflakes are the same. Even though they all fall into one of eight main categories (and 40 subcategories), they end up with some differences when looking at them microscopically due to factors like temperature, humidity, and what they bump into on their way to the ground! No two human brains are the same. Even though they all have the same parts and functions, our DNA from each parent influences how our brains start out. Over time, our brain actually changes due to the experiences we have!

Since everyone's brain is different, we must all have different ways of learning, remembering, thinking, feeling, etc. What works for me might not work for you -- and what you struggle with, I might not have any trouble with! There is no "correct" brain or "normal" brain, because all brains are different.

"Over the course of years, every person develops a completely individual brain anatomy. With our study we were able to confirm that the structure of people’s brains is very individual. The combination of genetic and non-genetic influences clearly affects not only the functioning of the brain, but also its anatomy."

- Dr. Lutz Jancke, Professor of Psychology at the University of Zurich (Source:

The scientific name that explains how our brains are all different is NEURODIVERSITY. The prefix "neuro" refers to the brain & nervous system, while the root word "diversity" means different!

Take 77 seconds to watch the first video entitled, "What is Neurodiversity?" on the left and think about what it is trying to teach you about each of our brains. Write down any questions or disagreements you may have with the video.

Next, spend less than five minutes watching the second video entitled, "We are all different." This video describes one way that someone can be neurodiverse. Cole tells us his main message towards the end of the video when he says that we don't need to try to find a cure for autism (or any neurodiversity). Instead, we all need to embrace our differences and appreciate the gifts and talents that we have, rather than focus on the challenges we deal with. Everyone is different, and that is awesome! So, how are you "different" from most of the people in your life?

  • Are there any challenges that you have that you don't think many others have?

  • Are there any ways that people think you are "weird" because of your differences?

  • Do you have any gifts or talents that are pretty unique to you?

  • What have others said to you about your unique abilities?

Some of the differences that you brainstormed above might be due to your genetics (the information passed down from your parents to you when you were born). Some of the differences above may be due to experiences that you've had or the way you've been raised (your environment). But each of these differences make you the person that you were meant to be.

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Dealing With Self-Harm and Aggression

Feb 18, 2022DisabilitiesParentsStudents

Self-harm and aggression are unfortunately common in people with disabilities, especially following an upsetting circumstance or situation. It can be incredibly frightening for both the person and their family. Read on to find some resources and next steps when dealing with self-harm and aggression.


Before we talk about how to handle situations when they arise, it’s important to understand a little background information, presented through several studies. It’s also important to remember that people with disabilities deserve to have control over their own bodies and should be respected above all else.

Prevalence: Self Injurious Behaviors (SIB) or self-harm is described as any behavior that is considered injurious to one’s self and is incredibly frightening for the person with the disability and their loved ones. It occurs in roughly 7%-23% of the disability population, particularly in those with an Intellectual Disability (ID), though the rates are much higher in populations of people with significant disabilities, reaching almost 73%.

Causes: There are many studied causes of SIB, but more research needs to be conducted in many areas in order to fully understand why SIB occurs and how to prevent it. Some causes that have been identified so far include sensory issues, lack of control or a feeling of a lack of control, feeling unable to express emotions of anger or frustration, and other factors such as exposure to dangerous bio-chemicals, history of abuse and certain genetic disabilities. It’s important to remember that there is always a cause to the SIB, and it’s no one’s fault when it occurs.

What can I do if my child is engaging in self-injurious behavior, self-harm or aggression towards others?

  1. First of all, remain calm. It’s important to not match the level of anxiety, anger or frustration they are feeling. These are big emotions, and it’s ok for them to be feeling that way.

  2. Protect yourself. If your child is being aggressive towards you or another person, it’s best to distance yourself from them until they can calm down. Things can be replaced, but people can not and you can not protect your child or others around them if you are injured. If you feel like you can not distance yourself safely, then it’s important to take a protective stance, like putting your hands in front of your face or using safe block techniques. The Crisis Prevention Institute (CPI) can help you learn safe block techniques as well as safe restraint techniques, if needed. Restraint should be an absolute last resort.

  3. Protect the person. Using pillows, blankets or other soft items in between the person and what they are using to engage in SIB can be helpful in reduction of harm. For example, you can use a pillow to reduce harm if the person is engaging in head banging behaviors or you can put a blanket over their arms if they are engaging in picking, scratching or pinching.

  4. Use soothing tones, voices or music. While you are intervening, it’s important to use soothing tones, voices or music to help them reduce their anxiety or help them calm down. You can remind them they are safe and that everything will be ok. You can put on some classical music (or music they like) or you can use a weighted blanket or vibrations to help reduce their sensory overload.

  5. Distraction. If it is safe, you can distract them from the behavior by engaging in a fun activity like dancing, singing or art or you can put something in their hands that will help them focus their feelings on something other than the SIB. For example, you can put a vibrating ball in their hands to give them the feeling of movement and distract them from what might be overwhelming their senses. Do what’s best for your child. Each person is unique and what distracts one person might overwhelm another.

Research proven methods for reducing self-injurious behavior (SIB) in the future

Research has been done on the various interventions ranging from psychotherapy to diet and vitamins. Below are some methods shown to be helpful in reducing SIB long term.

  1. Biochemical: Some people’s biochemistry can be regulated through diet and vitamins. Some research has shown that vitamin B6, calcium and a diet rich in fruits and vegetables and low in sugar can help reduce urges to engage in SIB.

  2. Therapy: Like anyone, providing tools and coping strategies to help your child deal with big emotions and sensory overload can help them learn to advocate for what they need to calm down, communicate what they need or engage in self-soothing behaviors.

  3. Communication: Increasing methods of communication can be very helpful in reducing SIB. For example, if your child is non-verbal or finds it difficult to express their emotions verbally when they are experiencing anxiety or frustration, you can use picture cards or a feelings chart to help them express their emotions. Once expressed, you can ask them what they need from you to help them feel better. You can provide them options like would it be helpful for me to stay with you or give you space right now?

  4. Understanding the Functions of the Behavior: Functional Behavior Analysis (FBA) is a tool used to determine the function of the SIB. For example, if your child engages in SIB after being told no and then stops their SIB when they eventually receive a yes, then they have learned that in order to change your mind as the parent, they can engage in SIB. Another example could be that the SIB is helping them cope with an overstimulating situation like loud music or a new environment. By understanding the function of this behavior, we can more easily intervene. Many children will give you subtle signs that they are going to engage in SIB, by paying close attention to these subtle signs, you may even be able to intervene before the behavior occurs.

  5. Medication: Medication should always be a last resort, after all interventions have been tried multiple times and have been proven ineffective. If you’re interested in exploring this route, you should speak to your child’s doctor about the best way to move forward that will still allow your child to enjoy their independence.

Always remember that there is no fault associated with self injurious behavior, self-harm or aggression. Finding out the root cause of the issue can help you better identify how to intervene in the moment. Stay calm and help them use their strategies or coping mechanisms. It’s also important to remember that learning new strategies is hard work and may not be successful the first time. Keep at it, the more time you invest in understanding your child, the easier these situations will become to handle and the less likely they will be to occur.

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SXSW EDU Presentation - IEP&Me Needs Your Vote!

Aug 19, 2021DisabilitiesIEPsTeachersWho We Are

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Invisible Weights - The Importance of DiagnosisInvisible Weights - The Importance of Diagnosis

Invisible Weights - The Importance of Diagnosis

Mar 8, 2021Disabilities

Going through school with an undiagnosed disability is like running a race with invisible weights strapped to your ankles. You run as hard and fast as you can to stay with the rest of the runners, probably even harder and faster, but while the rest of the runners aren’t breaking a sweat, you’re out of breath and on the verge of collapse.

“But those weights will surely make you stronger,” I hear many parents say, trying to find a silver lining on behalf of their struggling child. 

However, you don’t know the weights are on your ankles. When you look around, you decide that the reason you’re struggling must be a result of your inadequacy. The weights can make you stronger, build resilience and character, but what’s the purpose of such an exercise if it’s not being utilized properly? In order for that child to thrive, they first must see the weights.

I was diagnosed with ADHD, depression, and a severe anxiety disorder at the age of 21. I had gone through all of my schooling up until that point with weights strapped to my ankles, while being told it was my own fault if I wasn’t as fast as the rest. As far as my parents and teachers were concerned, I was a good student. I got good grades, I was polite to teachers, and I didn’t misbehave. What they didn’t see, however, was how I would break down crying in the bathroom between classes, how I had to dig my nails into my bloodied palms during class to distract myself from overstimulation, and how I regularly contemplated sticking needles into my ears so that I couldn’t be bothered by frightening noises anymore. The worst part of it all, though, was the fact that I couldn’t see the weights. I thought that, above all else, I was a failure because I struggled so much to do what my peers seemed to do effortlessly. What good am I as a person, I thought, if I can’t even sit still in a classroom without buckling into a panic attack?

By the time I was diagnosed, medicated, and accommodated, I only had one semester of college left to go. I wasn’t expecting such a radical difference in my experience, but that final semester was far and away the best one in all my years of education. I no longer struggled to stay in the classroom, I could ask questions and get involved in subjects I didn’t even care about (which was a foreign concept to me until then), and I didn’t have to take absences out of fear that I would intentionally crash my car on the drive home. I got straight A’s in all my classes, and my senior thesis, a short animated film, was voted best in show at the end of year presentations. Despite this, I don’t feel pride when I look back at how well that last semester went for me. Instead, I feel disappointment at how much easier my schooling experience could have been, and how much I could have accomplished if someone had told me about the weights sooner.

The weights did make me stronger. I’m resilient, introspective, and empathetic in ways I wouldn’t be without them. But, I’m also tired. Decades of telling myself that I’ve failed as a person don’t go away overnight, no matter how I try to prove the opposite. I can’t help but mourn for all the happiness I missed out on, on all the confidence I’d have now if I didn’t have to fight tooth and nail to hang onto scraps, and for a childhood that didn’t make me feel like a burden.

A diagnosis doesn’t make the weights go away. It does, however, tell you they’re there. What you and your child can do after that is up to you, whether you medicate, go to therapy, seek accommodations, or even just talk about what it means. No matter what, though, you can’t begin to work with a problem that you don’t know is there. Disabilities can even be a benefit to children in unique ways, and give them unique strengths. For example, ADHD has a fun little side effect called “hyper-fixation” that allows a person to, as the name implies, hyper focus onto a particular task, and usually allows them to perform that task very quickly, efficiently, and diligently. I have learned to utilize this tool myself in my freelance work, which allows me to complete work for clients in days that may take another artist weeks. I was only able to do this, though, through the use of appropriate therapy and medication, which can only come after the proper diagnosis.

Children with disabilities can and will thrive when they have the right tools at their disposal. You as a parent are not stifling or discouraging your child by getting them diagnosed, and a diagnosis is not something to be feared. It is far more dangerous to run with those weights without knowing about them, than to be told they’re there so you can use them to your advantage. 

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